The Institute for Sexuality and Intimacy

594 Marrett Raod
Lexington, MA 02420
P: (781) 894-7592
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The Institute for Sexuality and Intimacy
Suki Hanfling

Suki Hanfling, MSW, LICSW, BCD, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist is the Founder and Director of THE INSTITUTE FOR SEXUALITY & INTIMACY.
She was the former Founder & Director of the McLean Hospital Human Sexuality Program and the former Co-founder and Co-director of The McLean Hospital Couple's Institute.

Award: Suki Hanfling was the recipient of the first New England/New York American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) Award for Outstanding Contributions to the Field of Sex Therapy as a Therapist, Teacher, and Supervisor.

Do you wish you could feel more intimate with your partner? Has your sexual relationship lost it's passion and sense of connection? Do you wonder where your desire and excitement went and would rather read a book or watch t.v. than be sensual or sexual with your partner? If so, you might want to call Suki Hanfling for a free 15-20 minute phone consultation to explore whether couples/sex therapy with ISI staff might be helpful.

Suki Hanfling, AASECT diplomate and Jan Leslie Shifren, MD were the two consultants and authors of Sexuality in Midlife and Beyond, the Special Health Report from Harvard Medical Harvard Medical School. To learn about this report or to order copies please go to:

The Institute for Sexuality & Intimacy (ISI) offers treatment of sexual dissatisfaction, sexual dysfunction, and sexual addiction. We treat heterosexual, gay, lesbian and bisexual individuals and couples. Our treatment approach emphasizes the individual growth of each partner as well as the enhancement of the couple relationship.

We work with both members of a couple whenever possible. We have found that when one partner experiences sexual difficulties, the other partner generally influences and is affected by these problems. However, it is possible to successfully conduct sex therapy with an individual.

Although there are often multiple factors contributing to sexual difficulties, we begin sex therapy by addressing the most immediate and specific causes, such as communication difficulties, being 'time starved' due to life's stresses, and performance anxiety. When indicated, therapy can then focus on more complex causes, including difficulties with trust, control, and intimacy.

Commonly Encountered Sexual Difficulties
*Low or inhibited sexual desire, persistent reduction in sexual interest, or total disinterest in sex.
*Sexual incompatibility or unsatisfying sex.
*Impotence (erectile difficulties).
*Premature, delayed, or no ejaculation.
*Inability to experience orgasm (anorgasmia).
*Pain during intercourse or orgasm.
*Vulvadinia, vestibulitis, etc.
*Penetration difficulties (vaginismus).
*Sexual aversion or phobias (possibly resulting from sexual assault or abuse).
*Sexual addictions and compulsions.
*Difficulties caused by medical illness, physical handicaps or medications.

Treatment Strategies
The Institute for Sexuality and Intimacy uses an integrated approach based on the work of Masters and Johnson, Helen Singer Kaplan, Joseph LoPiccolo, David Schnarch, John Gottman, Harville Hendrix (Imago Therapy), Francine Shapiro (EMDR), Richard Schwartz (IFS) and others. Our highly experienced clinicians are extensively trained to provide treatment that encompasses interpersonal, psychodynamic, and cognitive and behavioral approaches, including specific sexual therapy techniques.

The Individualized Treatment Plan May Include:
*Identifying & addressing problematic aspects of the sexual interaction.
*Exploring sexual attitudes and experiences.
*Examining issues from the past which might affect the present.
*Identifying what aspects of the couple's interaction may trigger strong emotional reactions.
*Relaxation techniques.
*Communication and assertiveness training.
*Exploring difficulties with trust.
*Dealing with struggles over control.
*Developing mutual empathy, honesty, intimacy, and passion.
*Structured homework assignments.
*Sexual education, including suggested readings and videos.
*Referrals for medical evaluations and/or other treatments as needed.

When there is a history of sexual abuse or trauma difficulties with sexual desire and functioning are common. Our therapists are specifically trained to address these sensitive issues. Couples therapy and education about the impact of the abuse are combined with sex therapy to promote sexual healing. In these situations, the active and empathic participation of both partners is particularly important.

For further information please call (781) 894-7592



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Last Update: Sat January 27, 2018 21:00:01